living my ideal life:: may updates

I'm not even going to SAY how crazy the past month was, or how time flew. I'm assuming you know that already. Instead, I'm going to focus on the mystery of how God works. I've always heard about how life happens in seasons:  busy seasons, chaotic seasons, slow seasons, transitional seasons, you name it. There are happy times and hard times and all kinds of times in between. (ESPECIALLY at the start of a marriage -- we're a living example.) God is miraculous with His timing. He gives us what we need time and time again. When Drew and I had the (miraculous) opportunity to leave the country and enjoy a week's worth of uninterrupted time together last month, we assumed it was because Drew would need it, having just survived his first "busy season" as an accountant and starting into the season of studying tremendously hard for his impending CPA exam. Little did we know HOW MUCH he would need it. Not because of tax season (which was surprisingly pretty easy/painless for him) and not even because of insanity studying (although that time will come too soon now, too). We had no way of knowing that the email waiting in Drew's inbox, which he checked the day before starting back at work, would inform us of some crazy and unexpected news: A last-minute immediate business trip with no definitive end. The week he returned to work after our little respite, he was rushed off to a city four hours away to work tirelessly (often 12-hour workdays). Two weeks turned into three weeks, which turned into six and eight... Lots of uncertainty. Lots of time apart. He does get to return to me on weekends, and I had the opportunity to join him in the city and work remotely for one week's trip (last week). But it's hard. This is our first time since marriage that we've been apart for such long intervals so frequently. It's challenging, trying to readjust to life and routines. As a sister of a military wife, I know this is a piece of cake in comparison to a deployment or even business trips far enough away that companies can't justify sending spouses home on weekends, so I'm certainly not complaining. (I absolutely respect the wives and husbands who know that reality all too well, especially when children are involved and there's the constant risk of peril.) I don't have to worry that Drew's going to get injured in combat, and I do have the luxury of seeing him for a couple days at the end of every week. But it is still a challenge. A small hurdle. And definitely pushes Drew's limits, taking so much out of him.

I rest in the comfort of knowing that God saw this little bump in the road before we did, and provided us with such an incredible opportunity to spend time together before this particular season. He has never given us anything we couldn't bear -- and he continues to provide us with comfort and new ways of changing our hearts to be more like His while we're away from each other. We're no longer taking for granted evenings where we get to eat together, or sleeping beside one another at night. It's a lesson in gratitude, in finding new ways to encourage each other from a distance, and a test in faithfulness. Will we turn to God in these times of need, or try to take everything on, ourselves? I hope we stumble upon the wisdom to turn to Him, the ultimate provider. As it says in that beautiful song Oceans by Hillsong United: "You've never failed and you won't start now."
With that said, here are some updates on my little goals:
 
Huz & I before a dear friend's graduation dinner earlier this month! Isn't he dapper?!

Huz & I before a dear friend's graduation dinner earlier this month! Isn't he dapper?!

  • Exercise:  As of this week, I've been trying to get out of the box in my workout endeavors. I went running for the first time this YEAR yesterday, and it was surprisingly easy, considering how much my breath quality has improved from consistent yoga. I'm not the best runner and it's not my favorite activity, but I'm happy to try something new and see how it goes. I'm hoping to use the extra "free time" I've accumulated while Drew's out of town productively, and exercise frequently. What excuses do I possibly have now?
  • Tidy Home:  I'll be honest:  it's hard for me to justify keeping a clean house when I'm the only one in it. Admitting that makes me cringe a little (didn't my mother teach me anything about taking care of myself?!)... but that is the honest truth and I will certainly try my best to make that NOT so true in the coming weeks. Fortunately, I had a dear friend over to the house for coffee this morning, so I was up early vacuuming, straightening up the rooms, finishing laundry, and tidying/cleaning everything to be a presentable host. Drew's arrival this evening was another incentive. (I'm telling you -- having anyone over here is immediate motivation! Maybe I need a standing home date every week?)
  • Beautiful Workspace:  I'm still a total slacker in this department. We haven't been using our A/C, so all the heat in our house rises to the upstairs. It's enough to feel like I'm working out of a sauna. I love warm weather, but I may have to postpone working upstairs until it's full-on A/C-necessary.
  • Looking Presentable:  I finally re-blonded my hair a couple weeks ago, and you have NO idea how much that does for my motivation to get dressed cute. I've been breaking out the Lilly dresses on a regular basis, wearing pretty frocks and heels, and retiring the leggings and cardigans somewhat, which makes me feel fresh and renewed. Hello, summer!!! I'm afraid that in a few weeks' time all I'll be able to bear are shorts and the lightest weight jersey dresses, but maybe I'll keep up the dressing-up efforts. One can always get it a valiant effort!!! (Breezy summer nights are perfect for lightweight dresses and wedge heels, after all.)
  • Eating Healthy:  Vacation and travel got me all screwed up on the healthy-eating front. I'm trying to master moderation, but I really need to try Rick Bayless' "everyday eating" methods. He believes in adopting a "grocery store perimeter shopping" model for everyday meals (nothing processed, only natural foods that mostly come from the earth) with a good dose of occasional feasts. It's kind of the 80/20 thing. I'm not so good at extreme dieting or complete abstinence from indulgent foods, so hopefully this will be a wonderful marriage of healthy with moderation. 
  • Faith Building:  I got immersion baptized at our home church a couple weeks ago!!! We started the process to become official members, so that was one of the requirements. We're going to a PLACE class next week to find out our spiritual/personality strengths and weaknesses (to see how we can best serve the church), and I'm really looking forward to it.
  • Going Outside:  I've done excellent in this department! From vacationing to coffee dates and dinners al fresco, running and taking walks outside, I'm getting my fair share of Vitamin D!
  • Undivided Husband Attention:  Since Drew's been away during the week, we're working on really taking full advantage of our time together when we ARE together. I don't anticipate finding anything more appealing than him this weekend!!!!!
  • Preparing for Success:  One advantage of time apart means I can really focus my energies on preparing my business for success. Last week, when I was secluded in a city where I knew few people and had a LOT of free time on my hands (12+ hours while Drew was slaving away), I spent a good deal of my days sitting in Starbucks, working on back-end business stuff and taking care of big projects for my 2013 & '14 clients.
  • Making Time to Dream:  Oh, dreaming. I do this halfheartedly. I got over my burnout quickly and have started thinking about potential upcoming projects, working on business branding updates, and that kind of thing. Plans are in the works!
  • Cooking/Learning Domesticity:  Drew has absolutely mastered the art of biscuit-making, so I got to enjoy a lot of HIS domesticity in the past month. I think my next project will be a scratch coconut cake. I need my great-aunt's legendary family recipe! YUM!

NEW service offered:: honeymoon suite decor

If you know my business very well, you'll know that I'm always open to out-of-the-box requests and custom packages that encompass services out of the bounds of my traditional wedding planning offerings. (No, that doesn't mean you pick and choose which line-items you don't want to pay for out of my packages and set your own pricing -- I'm talking creative projects that push the bounds of my imagination and satisfy your event needs!)

I had a groom send me one such request a little over a month ago: he wanted to surprise his bride-to-be with an elaborately decorated honeymoon hotel suite for their wedding night! I thought it was a sweet idea and something that would be really special for the two of them. We talked at length about how he loosely envisioned the whole affair, the couple's likes and dislikes, specific requests, and I wove all those little details together to create something absolutely lovely for them.

It was such a great experience I've decided to expand my traditional services to now include honeymoon suite design and decorating! Please shoot me an email if you're interested in kicking up your hotel suite a few notches in the romance department:) I'm happy to create a custom package for you! 

Check out pictures from D.W. & Hannah's honeymoon suite (at the Hutton Hotel in downtown Nashville), taken by the talented Micah G. Robinson!

Think of something you'd love to incorporate in your wedding or special event that hasn't been done before? Shoot me an email and I'll be happy to find a way to make it happen for you! :)

pigeon:: a personal post

I try not to get too terribly personal in KDE blogging, but from time to time I just have to write in stream of consciousness and figure out things about life.  Also, disclaimer - do not be offended by my absolutely BLATANT stereotyping. That's the whole point; none of us fit any exact stereotype. Exhibit A:

In my natural habitat -- behind-the-scenes with my fave,  Spindle Photography .

In my natural habitat -- behind-the-scenes with my fave, Spindle Photography.

I love pigeonholing myself into categories of people, I've found. I try on different hats (the scholar, the cheerleader, the sorority girl, the church girl, the yoga hippie, the fashionista, the actress, the lawyer, the wedding industry maven, the prepster, the traveler, the homebody, the homemaker, the all-American, the Southern belle, the beach bum, the glamour girl, to name a few...) and try to smush my entire existence into one particular mold and see how that fits me. I seriously do this all the time. I'm in a constant state of self-discovery, comparison with others (who do I fit in with?), and experimenting with new sides of my personality. Because apparently I'm a little schizophrenic when I try to narrow things down.

I was high school valedictorian, but I didn't do honors or grad school or really care about propagating that reputation past my freshman year of college. Not that I think I'm suddenly stupid (I probably think I'm way smarter than I actually am, to be honest...if there's one thing I'm egotistical about, it's my spelling skills and my perception of my ability level to learn things when I apply at them)... I just didn't care about being KNOWN exclusively as "the smart one" like I was in high school. It was great, yes, but I prefer creative outlets where being smart is definitely beneficial, but I can have more fun than just studying and applying facts to real life.

I'm definitely in large part a sorority girl -- I ADORED my three years of sorority life at Belmont, am a relatively active alumna, and my sweet sisters who are still active occasionally stroke my ego by telling me that my name comes up in conversation still, despite me graduating two years ago. (LEGACY! How sweet!) I definitely made it a priority to know the younger girls as I began to phase out, and it's paid off. I still have relationships and I'm not completely irrelevant in my extended sorority family, despite the age gap. WOOHOO! But as far as stereotypical sorority girls are concerned, I'm not rich, stunningly gorgeous, or a party girl (well, not THAT kind of party girl). I try not to be too cliquey or mean, but I do still have a (slightly obsessive) fondness for Lilly Pulitzer prints and preptastic taste. Despite my affections for J Crew, though, I don't always wear pastels, I have ZERO polos, and a lot of my attire is comfy (leggings, knit jersey dresses, boots or coral sandals, and a ton of cardigans) rather than chic (although I try).

I definitely am an active churchgoer, try to bring up my faith on a pretty consistent basis in conversation now, and am part of a small group. For some large part, I guess, I fit the mold of the Southern church lady -- dressing up, wearing pearls, staying conservative. But really this stereotype has changed on its own (young church ladies are all across the board -- no longer just WASPs!). So I guess it's not one that I really fit, either.

I'm obsessed with hot yoga and go consistently, I'm attending yoga teacher training this summer, and I'm all about lululemon... but I don't have the budget to spend hundreds of bucks on workout clothes, I'm not vegan, I like wearing makeup and never miss a class without wearing my pearl earrings, I don't smoke pot and I couldn't care less for kombucha or coconut water... so there goes that "type." No solid hippie life for me. But I also can't do away with it completely, either. Hmm.

As far as dressing up and glamorizing goes, I like to do this as much as humanly possible. Does this mean you'll never catch me without makeup? No. (Perhaps I'll still be wearing mascara, but SOMETIMES I do leave the house bare-faced. Seriously.) Am I always wearing jewelry? Not unless you count my diamond engagement and wedding rings and pearl earrings (ok, so I guess those count...). Would I wear red lipstick every day if it didn't smudge so much? Ok, yes... (I've worn it to hot yoga before.) Am I wearing a dress 90% of the time? Probably... Okay, so maybe this one is the most suited to me. But it's not like I wear designer anything (besides Lilly -- which I get as presents or ebay finds!). I have literally ZERO expensive handbags or shoes, besides my Frye boots which I ALSO got on ebay!

Acting and law were NOT for me. Wedding planning and design is totally up my alley, but I haven't discovered all my creative outlets yet. I love being creative (sewing, writing, singing, dreaming, designing parties, styling outfits and tablescapes, baking, cooking, dancing)... but there's untapped potential I have yet to discover! I can't just call myself a wedding planner and leave it there.

My traveling and homebody tendencies are at odds, too. I love travel, but I have to be with somebody. A close somebody, like my best girlfriend or my husband. Or my mother, of course. I'm even fine traveling alone as long as I'm meeting up with somebody once I get where I'm going. I have yet to be able to fully enjoy being completely alone in unfamiliar territory. I'm just so outgoing/relational.

I don't know if I could ever cut it as a complete beach bum -- I burn too easily, apparently, and I'm a little too modest to traipse around in a skimpy bikini as "clothes." I'm fine doing it at a resort or if I'm just at the beach, but I ALWAYS have some semblance of a coverup with me JUST IN CASE. I'd be totally open to challenging this judgment, though, given the chance to move to the beach!

The Southern Belle in me coincides with the glamorizing part, I think. I would hope this is the most in tune with who I am:  sweet, kind to others, hospitable, knows how to take care of a home, prioritizes her Southern Baptist-ness, loves the hot climate and her heritage, values her sorority life, adores the [Southeastern coastal] beach, makes a mean sweet tea (ok, Drew had to teach me that one, but still...), is never without mascara or lipstick or pearls, wears dresses at every occasion but has a handy pair of boots and dark-wash jeans for the farm... Values throwing a big-a** Delta wedding (albeit, mine missed out on the ice sculptures and topiaries of reknown). Hosts a party at every occasion humanly possible (CHECKMATE). 

I suppose that's as pigeonholed as I can get. Fine by me:)

inspiration:: gatsby

Today I'm taking a little trip in the time machine of Kelly inspiration! I created this inspo board a little over two years ago (I've been a Gatsby fan forever!)... in the spirit of the movie's opening night this week, here is a little loveliness for your enjoyment!

PS: Little-known fact. . . Carey Mulligan in this movie influenced my big hair chop in December! I will most certainly be "flappering" my hair for weeks after we see the movie!

featured:: borrowed & blue:: kde interview

I had the privilege of being interviewed for the fabulous new wedding vendor directory resource, Borrowed & Blue, last month! See a snippet below and read the whole thing here:

What do you love about the wedding industry & working with brides?

I love the gravity involved with weddings: they’re events, first and foremost, but they hold so much importance to people. It’s probably the most memorable party of a person’s life! With that in mind, wedding industry professionals take that very seriously. We understand it’s not just a dress, a bouquet is more than flowers, and why everything is such a big deal. It’s also amazing to be in the industry that celebrates love the most – literally every decision is made around a pivotal relationship between two people who love each other. As far as working with brides is concerned, I love helping bring their dreams to fruition, finding them the perfect vendors that fit their values and tastes, coming up with beautiful ideas and ways to incorporate their relationship into the day’s celebrations. I love how intimate the relationship between my clients and me can be: I see couples extensively for months (sometimes years!), help problem-solve and plan the most important party of their lives, and get to share in the experience of their wedding day. It’s such an honor and absolutely humbling to be chosen to walk with them through that period of their lives. It’s fulfilling and meaningful for me.

What is your advice for a couple on a strict budget?

The one thing I drill into my clients’ heads over and over, no matter their budget, is PRIORITIZE!!! Regardless of how much money you have to play with, you have to know exactly what you care about and want to invest in – even if you’re not shelling out a ton of money, you’re still limited by timelines and the boundaries of reality, so it is absolutely imperative that you and your fiancé prioritize what will be going into your wedding. I also strongly encourage my more limited budget clients to think outside of the traditional realms of what a wedding “should” be. You might want a huge blowout wedding with a full meal, 200 of your closest friends, and flowers for days, for example. If you can’t afford to feed everyone a four-course supper (food’s expensive, y’all!), why not have a brunch wedding? You can still have just as many people attend but fewer people are going to drink heavily in the morning (hello, mimosa or bloody mary bar!), and depending on what you serve, you can get away with serving less food (for less money). You can also provide less reception seating (and therefore fewer centerpieces, saving costs), you won’t need as much lighting, and you can limit the timeline from start to finish (saving on hourly expenses). Morning weddings are just as charming as evening affairs. PLUS, you get to spend a whole day with your new spouse… you can get dinner afterwards for the two of you, maybe massages, actually get to ENJOY your wedding night hotel suite… think of the opportunities!

Another surefire way to lower your wedding costs is to cut down that guest list. Do you REALLY need 300 people at your wedding? Would you seriously buy every person on your list dinner if you went out to eat with him or her? That’s essentially what you’re doing. Are you still going to be close friends with them six months after the wedding? Remember your time is limited on your wedding day. You only get to talk to people for a few minutes over the course of the whole day. If you invite substantially fewer guests, you get to spend more quality time with each of them. Food for thought!

You are happily married. Can you share one piece of marriage advice for our brides-to-be?

The most important thing is to love your spouse more than yourself. Our natural human tendency is to be selfish (I’m particularly guilty of this most of the time), but I guarantee your marriage will be a thousand times happier and more fulfilling when you bless your spouse by loving them first. Also, always be gracious. Both of you will make mistakes frequently (welcome to reality!), but have grace with one another. Be quick to forgive, slow to anger. Drew and I strive to have our relationship reflect that of Jesus and the Church – we may be far from perfect, but when your goals and hearts are in the right place, even if you fall short, it’s so much better than being unintentional.

Be sure to add Kelly Dellinger Events to your Borrowed & Blue WishList for your own wedding in Nashville!

Thanks to Borrowed & Blue for choosing me to be the spotlighted planner of April! Check out their website -- a valuable wedding planning tool -- here!

living my ideal life:: april updates

Well, I'll be! Once AGAIN a month has flown by, faster than I could imagine! More updates for you...

  • Exercise:  I've really kicked this up a notch -- last week alone I went to 5 hot yoga classes in 3 days, went on a 4-mile hike with my mom, did a kettlebell workout with Drew, and went for a walk in the park. YAY endorphins!
  • Tidy Home:  This is the "needs improvement" section of the month. Our house is still pretty guest-friendly but hasn't been completely kept up.
  • Beautiful Workspace:  Confessional... I haven't really worked much upstairs since I finished out my workspace. It's still a little lacking, and I just haven't felt super motivated to go upstairs to work. I will, though! It will be a goal of mine for April/May.
  • Looking Presentable:  I'm getting better at this. Warmer weather means cuter clothes and retiring the leggings for another year.
  • Eating Healthy:  Eh, this is a hard one. We eat a lot of vegetables but a TON of avocados. Mix them with garlic salt and a bag of Santitas and it's trouble. 
  • Faith Building:  In all honesty, this hasn't been a priority as much as it should be. We've been watching sermons from home but not really engaging in a community, besides our once-weekly small group.
  • Going Outside:  Checkmate. This gorgeous (and psycho) weather has had us outside enjoying our patio, going for walks, and just basking in the sunshine as much as possible!
  • Undivided Husband Attention:  I still haven't weaned off my iPhone but we are going on one glorious social media-free vacation this upcoming weekend!!!! 
  • Preparing for Success:  Baby steps.
  • Making Time to Dream:  I overloaded in March. Taking a breather now.
  • Cooking/Learning Domesticity:  Brussels sprouts, anyone?

Getting in the island spirit a few days early!

Getting in the island spirit a few days early!

This month has been an interesting one. Drew and I planned an EXTREMELY last-minute early anniversary vacation, which has honestly taken up the majority of my attention the past couple of weeks. (Or rather, the past one-and-a-half weeks, since that's as long as we've had the trip booked!) Some really fun things have been on the horizon and kept under wraps as of late (like a new Kelly Dellinger Events package offering) and some personal goal-reaching unrelated to the wedding field... but I'll elaborate more on all of that later.

Happy April! Did everyone have a good Tax Day? Drew and I are so excited to celebrate out of the country next week!!!! (EEEEP!)

let's get real:: you are enough

The ever wise (and fabulous) planner Rhi of Hey Gorgeous Events wrote a beautiful, honest post last week that really hit home for me.

Leah is a perfect example of focusing on what matters. She inspires me DAILY to just let go. New followers? More weddings? More overtime in the office? More superficial being? Hell no. Ain’t nobody got time for that. . . Success so often is what everyone else makes it out to be. Success to some is more followers, more features, 25 weddings a year, more comments on a post, more money, more friends, more more more. . . More is further away from enough and the only way you’re going to live a fulfilled, happy and meaningful life is to define your own version of success. Write it down. Memorize it.
— Rhiannon Banda, Hey Gorgeous Events

Her words particularly strike me because she's absolutely someone I look to (from afar, on the other side of this online looking-glass) as a person who's got it ALL together. She's gorgeous, has a successful event planning company, creates beautiful work, is happily married, has two precious pets and a stunning home... She seems to be everywhere that pretty things are and captures them all beautifully for the world to see. So how, I ask myself, in the world is she not completely 1000% thrilled and fulfilled every waking moment?!!?! Well, Kelly, she's human. Like you. Like every other planner, wife, daughter, friend, homeowner, apartment owner, person.

I haven't been a business owner or a wife for very long yet. I'm a newlywed and just started this company in January 2013. (That's correct. Three months ago.) But in my limited experience, it's really easy to look at other people and think, "Man, they've got it all figured out." And think, "Man, I really don't have even a clue." We're all working through this life together. We're all at different stages of life, trudging forward, making decisions as best we can, hoping to do whatever it will take for us personally to succeed.

It's so easy to think, If I had _______, I'd be happy. We set goals to reach things that we see other people doing and reaching, and even when we get them, we're not happy. Because those goals don't matter. Those THINGS don't matter. I love what Rhi says about "'More' is further away than 'enough.'" When we focus on what MORE we can have and do and reach, we're no longer content with exactly where we are.

Words of wisdom from  Lara Casey .

Words of wisdom from Lara Casey.

When I was a college freshman struggling with depression and disordered eating, my counselor made me recite to myself, "Who I am and what I have is enough." I had been panicking about my uncontrollable tendency to binge-eat after a year's worth of starving myself. A full year of excruciatingly limiting everything that went into my mouth had taken its toll, and finally my body was fed up with being starved. So anytime I'd go home (the place where I permitted myself to eat actual meals, because it was good food and therefore "worthwhile"), I would stuff myself to the point of feeling physically ill. My body's natural urge was to store up on as much food as I could get in one sitting, because it didn't know when it would get food again. It was extremely hard getting past that cycle once I did start eating normally again. My body had to reset its starvation mode buttons and re-learn how to process and consume normal healthy meals, and it took time.

All that is to say, I had to be reminded that my daily bread was enough. Instead of flip-flopping to the reverse of the abuse I'd put myself through initially (by bingeing), I had to convince myself that whatever meal before me would be enough to sustain me. And remind myself that in the meantime, I personally was enough too. I didn't need to go to some crazy extreme. I didn't need more more more of anything to make myself feel whole and happy.

Isn't it funny how some lessons follow us throughout our lives? We overcome some struggles, but then the same themes come back over and over again.

So, here's a reminder for you and me:  You are enough. You have enough, and you are enough.

for the love of lilly

I had started this post several weeks ago, before the passing of legendary designer Lilly Pulitzer. I publish this now in honor of her amazing style, cheerful spirit, and all of the happy she spread throughout the world! In memory of Lilly Pulitzer Rousseau...

It should be no secret that I'm a diehard Lilly Pulitzer fan. I've always been drawn to her bright colors and prints, as well as signature pink & green color palette. I adore her books on entertaining (with gorgeous coastal features -- get me to Palm Beach!), and her whimsical, fun fashions. I've loved her work since I was a little girl (and checked out her books in middle school!). Her signature Lilly style is still my absolute favorite, and evidenced by the laptop bag, iPhone case, every office accessory, and entire kitchen cabinet of Lillyware (as well as a significant portion of my side of our walk-in closet). OB-SESSED. (I also happen to adore the name Lillian and have plans to name my future daughter something along those lines, God-willing. ;)

As far as Lilly-inspired nuptials are concerned, I have a special place in my heart for them! {Our own wedding was pink and green and floral-filled! My matron of honor threw me a Lilly Pulitzer shower and I had a Lilly luncheon for my bridesmaids the day before we got hitched.} It's so fun and easy to throw Lilly themed parties -- throw some citrus, flowers, and punchy colors together and tada! Here are some of my favorite images from past Lilly parties, retail stores (they are works of art in and of themselves!), and tablescapes galore. Mega-swoon!

Aren't these just ADORABLE?! I love the candy chandeliers, the sea creature cookies, and I just love all the DIFFERENT ways you can tie in her classic prints! Beyond precious. Thank you, Lilly, for being such a fabulous inspiration!!

sense memory & homesick for our honeymoon

I'm always taken aback by how strong sense memory can be. I chew a piece of berry-flavored gum that I used to stock up on my freshman year of college, and a wave of depression hits me like a ton of bricks. I walk into a muggy hot yoga hallway and am instantly transported to the two weeks my close friend and I first tried it out (and binge-exercised for our unlimited two week beginner period). I hear a song on the radio or an old CD and think back to the couple of months it was my ringtone, and all the things that happened that season. I take a bite of a piece of chocolate espresso torte and suddenly I'm at my high school boyfriend's prom again, nervous but so excited to be on my first "real date."

Sense memory can bring back a flood of negative emotions at the drop of a hat. That first time I chewed the berry gum I was like, "WHOA now! That year was a rough patch but that time is OVER!" It takes repeated exposure to try to wipe out a negative sense memory -- sometimes even therapy (!) or at the least, self-affirmation that lets you let the feelings go.

SCRUMPTIOUS wedding cake by  Dulce Desserts .  {Alyssa Joy Photography }

SCRUMPTIOUS wedding cake by Dulce Desserts{Alyssa Joy Photography}

On the other side of the spectrum, it can also release incredible happy feelings and memories. Anytime I eat a slice of Dulce Desserts' wedding cake, it's our wedding night all over again! (Although I would seriously KILL to have our actual wedding cake flavors recreated. If anyone wants to have a wedding cake composed of a chocolate chip cake with coffee buttercream, European buttercake with lemon curd and raspberry buttercream, or pistachio cake with pistachio buttercream and chocolate truffle ganache, I am HAPPY to eat every last crumb if you happen to have some left over.)

Javier, our private Excellence Club bartender/butler/amazing-person. Javier Castillo -- best part of Excellence Riveria Cancun! Go there and tell him I sent you!!!!!!

Javier, our private Excellence Club bartender/butler/amazing-person. Javier Castillo -- best part of Excellence Riveria Cancun! Go there and tell him I sent you!!!!!!

Lately, I've been soaking up the sense memories related to our honeymoon at Excellence Riviera Cancun. I still haven't had a mojito that even held a candle to Javier's (our personal Club bartender), and we tragically haven't seen the ocean since we left Mexico.... BUT. We DID manage to leave the resort with a couple of little bottles of the incredible Bvlgari shampoo, conditioner, and body lotion that we used in our room.

Oh. My. Heavens. I ran out of normal shampoo two days ago, so I reached inside our medicine cabinet yesterday to pull out our little honeymoon toiletries until I can get to the store to restock our usual stuff. One sniff of that glorious, heavenly shampoo, and I was in our completely-marble Excellence Junior Suite shower all over again. I'm telling you, there is NOTHING like reliving the best vacation of your life. Today I whipped out the trifecta of Excellence conveniences (shamp, conditioner, AND lotion) and legitimately spent a good five to ten minutes closing my eyes and pretending there was marble beneath my feet instead of whatever cheap linoleum stuff our apartment bath/shower's made out of. Sweet dreams are made of this!!!!!!

The view from our room! {Swoon!}

The view from our room! {Swoon!}

Last night when Drew got home he couldn't stop smelling my hair. I'm telling you, this stuff is addictive. I'm half a mind to go out and buy the crazy full-size Bvlgari toiletry set (including the perfume, because I'm sure it's amazing too).

ECSTATIC honeymooners! {Self-timer pic taken immediately upon our arrival!}

ECSTATIC honeymooners! {Self-timer pic taken immediately upon our arrival!}

All this is to say.... WE HAD THE BEST HONEYMOON IN THE HISTORY OF THE WORLD, EVER. We are absolutely, one-thousand-percent homesick over Excellence Riviera Cancun all of the time. When we first stepped foot out of that airport transfer van, we were greeted with a man yielding a cooler full of cold wet washcloths (it's hot in Mexico, y'all), two lovely ladies with a tray of champagne, and literally everyone who encountered us said, "Welcome home!!!" Oh, I could just relive it right this minute!!

We loved the heck out of every last thing at that place. We kept going on and on about how it was aptly named "Excellence"... and the customer service was SO. SO! Good. Oh my...

the gorgeous pier {where we watched SEVERAL couples get married all week!}

the gorgeous pier {where we watched SEVERAL couples get married all week!}

We will undoubtedly be going back to Excellence (perhaps Punta Cana next time?!) as soon as we can manage to. And Carlie Finch (2 Travel Anywhere) will be planning the trip, since she is the goddess of all things travel-related.

The mariachi band serenaded us through our dinner at the delicioso Mexican restaurant!

The mariachi band serenaded us through our dinner at the delicioso Mexican restaurant!

Honeymooners and the GORGEOUS resort background.{photo taken by the couple-friends we met at the resort, Patrick and Rachel!}

Honeymooners and the GORGEOUS resort background. {photo taken by the couple-friends we met at the resort, Patrick and Rachel!}

I will seriously refer every.single.bride I ever get or encounter her direction because she is THAT amazing. You will not find a sweeter person, nor one who plans a vacation more thoroughly (no detail left overlooked!), nor one more awesome than Carlie. I sincerely loved every single person involved in the construction of our epic wedding, but I can honestly say working with Carlie was the most stress-free, enjoyable, exciting experience through the entirety of wedding planning. It costs ZERO DOLLARS to work with her, she finds the best deal out there (which allows you to stay the LONGEST TIME POSSIBLE wherever you choose -- ah-mazing!), and she seriously takes care of everything. We planned our honeymoon about six months out from our wedding day, paid it off in full (because I like paying things off as early as possible) by April, and literally did not have to do another thing in preparation for our trip besides going swimsuit and floppy hat shopping, getting Drew's passport, and PACKING until we were getting on a plane and grinning ear to ear. Beat that! She confirmed every last little thing for us before we left (in the midst of our crazy wedding-prep week), called the resort WHILE WE WERE THERE to make sure we were having the time of our lives, and had us pampered to death the whole time. Drew and I literally asked each other if we had died on the plane and gone to heaven when we got there. (And asked it every day after that, too.)

Drew perusing the pizzeria's menu one lazy afternoon. Everything was SO nice!

Drew perusing the pizzeria's menu one lazy afternoon. Everything was SO nice!

The only word that comes to mind is mega-swoon. Our honeymoon was PERFECT! We have missed it every day since we left. Our honeymoon suite room has inspired most of the interior decor decisions we have made upon moving (which we did the DAY after we got back from Mexico -- WHIRLWIND!)... the white sheer curtains we got, the beachy patio setup we have outside, the bright and vivid colors all over our house.... Oh my heavens.

Mmm.... best breakfasts (esp. cappuccinos!) ever!

Mmm.... best breakfasts (esp. cappuccinos!) ever!

I hope everyone has the opportunity to look back on their honeymoons with the fondness and adoration that we do. It's that important. You only live once!!!!! Are you planning a honeymoon or simply a little getaway? Call up Carlie. You won't regret it! :)

THAT SUNSET! I DIE! {photo by patrick runyon}

THAT SUNSET! I DIE! {photo by patrick runyon}

featured:: green wedding shoes:: lucky charm styled shoot

I cannot tell you how excited I was (and the dance party that ensued) when I got a text from esteemed photographer Morgan Trinker that our "You're My Lucky Charm" stylized shoot was going to be published by Green Wedding Shoes for St. Patrick's Day! Morgan and I have been swapping emails and scatterbrained phone calls since early January, making her gorgeous St. Paddy's Day dreams come true for this gorgeousness. Ob-sessed.

One weekend nearing the end of February, I loaded up my Yaris with table linens, gorgeous florals by Artisan Flowers, a LulaKate dress from The Bride Room, rental votives, glassware, and chargers from Liberty Party Rentals, a bunch of miscellaneous bits and pieces to fill in the blanks, and an adventuresome husband happy to "work" on a shoot at a brewery in the lovely Magic City of Birmingham, Alabama.

Joanna Ballentine and Molly Stilley made our gorgeous (real-life engaged couple) bride & groom models look dashing, as well as our team of lovely wedding partygoers!

The gorgeous cake (complete with beribboned cake pulls) was made by Birmingham's fabulous Uprising Cakes. Be True Designs (based out of Knoxville) created the lovely paper goods suite, and Kelly Cummings did calligraphy for signage and a few fun little projects scattered.

Artisan Flowers' florals were just stunning! Love her pops-of-color ranunculus bouquet and fun lotus centerpieces. Also -- don't you just adore the little charm necklace our bride wore? Morgan made it! She's so crafty!!

Southern Femme did an excellent job dressing our groom & bridal party models! Love Zack's tie and vest combination and the jewel-toned bridesmaid gowns.

Last but not least, the gorgeous tablescape! I had a BLAST styling this little satin number up with raspberry striped napkins, glittery placemats (can you BELIEVE they're just scrapbook paper pieces?!), and a host of gorgeously shaped glasses from Liberty Party Rental!

Beyond obsessed with these custom vinyl sticker bottle labels -- such a perfect touch for any wedding!

Beyond obsessed with these custom vinyl sticker bottle labels -- such a perfect touch for any wedding!

Being a part of such an amazing shoot was just an unbelievable experience! I still can't get over how gorgeous everything was and how much fun (albeit exhausting) the weekend played out to be. :) Here's a sneak peek below from behind-the-scenes! See film footage from the shoot on our feature at Green Wedding Shoes by Kinora Films -- and check out GWS or the KDE Facebook page to see even more beautiful images from the shoot!

photography + concept: Morgan Trinker Photography // coordination + styling: Kelly Dellinger Events // venue: Avondale Brewery // florals: Artisan Flowers // cake: Uprising Cakes // hair: Joanna Ballentine // makeup: Molly Stilley of Morgan Ashley Salon // wardrobe styling: Megan LaRussa of Southern Femme // paper goods: Be True Designs // calligraphy:Kelly Cummings // cinematography: Kinora Films // dress shop: The Bride Room // dress designer: Lula Kate // bride’s charm Necklace: DIY // rentals: Liberty Party Rental